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I was with Liz and Lhen this afternoon. After running errands we settled at a coffee shop in Mall of Asia in full view of the sunset. Pretty sight and also sentimental. Eventually, our conversation lead to love stuff and to Lhen and I being the overly opinionated ones.

In love, how do you know when to let go? How much is enough? When do you stop running after something that’s running away from you? When you stop and he/she comes back, should you accept him/her?

If you’d ask me you’d get a quick answer. And that comes with an explanation. But some of my friends find it hard to take action towards a new life without an old love. They would rather compromise their dignity and self-respect to try to put things back when in fact, it could never be the same again. You cannot save someone who doesn’t wish to be saved. In this situation, persistence doesn’t guarantee success.

It sounds nega but you have to face it. Wag mo ipagpilitan ang sarili mo sa ayaw sayo. We all deserve respect. We deserve love. And a person who can bear to see you cry without touching your face isn’t someone you should spend the rest of your life with. Sometimes you have to get out of that box to see a more beautiful world. Sabi nga sa Avenue Q, “there’s life outside your apartment!”

Be brave to take the first step. It’s the hardest and the most crucial. Look back but don’t step back. Move. Life goes on and so should you. Who knows, the better person may just be walking towards your crossroads.

The last one in my string of weekend parties and it was fun. Nice way to end the celebratory months of my year. Some cried for the nostalgia but the rest of the night was filled with laughter!

Pictures are posted on Facebook.

Early this month, Bhu decided to celebrate her birthday in time for RJ’s short visit here so we’d be “complete.” We can never be complete since Gilbert’s in the US and the others have been inactive for a while or are bound by their self-imposed irrational limits. And the gathering happened last weekend. Due to Bhu and RJ’s conflicting schedule, we had to have two separate nights out for them. RJ’s welcome-home dinner was Friday while Bhu’s birthday was Saturday.

RJ

RJ took us to Hai in SM Mall of Asia. That place looked better than their Fort Bonifacio branch, where my credit card got accidentally maxed out several months ago. And RJ loved the Japanese-style tables. It was perfect for a quiet dinner that we wanted.

The amount of food was overwhelming! Same thing about RJ’s quick weight gain in just six months. She looked radiant but you could not miss the big change in her. Hours passed as we reminisced the old days, talked about RJ’s life in Qatar, and issues around our own relationships.  If Hai were like bars in Malate, we’d be there talking and laughing until daybreak. Haha! No, we don’t stay out that late anymore. Plus RJ had plans the next morning.

After Hai, we went around MOA where Lhen and RJ tortured themselves inside these giant floating balls. We enjoyed ourselves while watching them, though. Haha!

We then went to Music 21 but Kaye was starting to play the curfew baby again and the rooms were all occupied so eventually, we decided just leave and call it a night.

BHU

Bhu wanted to settle around SM Mall of Asia again so Lhen could come. Lhen works in TeleTech and was only allowed to skip work for one day (Friday). Anyway, the least noisy place that we found was Pier One near the bay but it was also the least photogenic, ever! And their service sucks! The crew ignored our call, forgot some of our orders, and were barely visible in case we needed something. I’ve been to other Pier One branches but I never experienced such waiting and crappy service than in Pier One Mall of Asia.

Anyway… We still stayed – it was the only place I knew that served Gilbey’s Premium which was Bhu’s favorite. Nothing else really bothered us aside from the service people. The location was relatively quiet and well-lit. Bhu made the most of it by taking as much alcohol as she could. Haha! I have to admire her discipline nowadays. If I were in her shoes, I’d be tempted to skip school to be with my friends I last saw a many months ago. RJ also stopped by after her afternoon stint at a friend’s wedding. She looked gorgeous.

We plan to see each other next on my birthday. That’s how busy we are. RJ can’t be there but I hope it will still be as fun. And I’ll make sure not to do it near SM Mall of Asia! I think it’s not the best place to dine out.

A week ago, we were twelve-year-olds again. For Kaye’s birthday we had an afternoon of laughter and fun in the rain. I was actually worried Daddy (Kaye’s dad) would scold us for getting too soaked. It was fun. If we weren’t carrying our cellphones and cameras with us we would’ve stayed out longer.

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I just got a beautiful message from Bhu:

If you laugh really loud, talk spontaneously and you don’t care what your face looks like, you’re probably with your real friends.

True. And last week’s celebration of Lhen’s birthday in Alchemy was another realization of that. It’s been a while since we last went there and got drunk – Liquid and O Lounge were still open then. Although we missed RJ and Liezel’s presence, we still had the coolest time. It might be because I don’t usually go out anymore that I really appreciated how much fun it was to get so drunk with your friends and dance. Of course everything was taken care of Vern, who always makes us happy whenever we go there. Thanks a lot!

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In every ending comes a new beginning. And every new beginning is a new challenge that will broaden further our knowledge about life and our purpose of living it. Lalim noh. But it makes sense. Recently, certain people left to take on new challenges and the latest ones to go were Liezel and Myles. I admire their determination and courage to take risks. Sometimes I wonder how they do it – take career and love with them wherever they go and make both work for them.

Last week we had a little party for them in Global City. Good thing it was Sunday so very few people were around. There are times when I like to see a huge crowd of happy people but last Sunday wasn’t one of them – I wanted it to be as intimate as possible. We had dinner in Hai. It was quiet and I liked it but it was too quiet for us. You see, I got loud friends. We’re probably the loud group you hate in a restaurant. But I don’t care – and I like seeing them go crazy once in a while. So after dinner, we transferred to The Fort Strip to drink. Most of the bars were closed so we just settled in Pier One.

I could not remember the last time I went out with them for a drink but I felt the difference of not having RJ, Gilbert and the others with us. That night I noticed we were getting fewer. But then, it’s not like we won’t see each other again. It may take a while but surely, we’ll meet again. We’ll drink beer again and laugh at the same stupid things again.

We left the place by 12AM because I still got work the following day. But we had another round of picture taking, fooling around and lots more loud laughing at the parking lot before we took our ride home. Kaye was crazy! I think he got drunk. And I liked it that Piglet was with us.

To Myles and Liezel – Bhu told me you’re okay there now. Thanks for the happy times. I never really felt saying goodbye. I always have this feeling that you’re near and we’ll see each other again soon. But whatever… Good luck and I hope you two get what you want and be happy in all the things that you do. See you soon!

Among my few real friends, RJ is the most career-oriented that I totally admire. There’s no stopping her or her will to get ahead. We would sit down in Coffee Bean and talk about our plans and we’d just fill each other with encouraging words that one day we’d get what we want. The city could’ve imploded on our spot with the intense drive to succeed we felt surging within us.

Hours ago she left for Qatar and it’ll take long before we see each other again. I’m not good with goodbyes that’s why during her farewell night last Friday, I refused to share my fondest memories with her. I thought it inappropriate because I knew she’d be back and most of all, I didn’t wanna cry. I’m gonna miss her. Haaaay…

RJ. I’ve always believed in your determination and now that you’ve taken a big step forward, keep going and do all those stuff that we used to talk about. No more Coffee Bean moments for me but what you have now is way better. Puta ka I thought we’d live together abroad tapos iniwan mo ko. Hahaha! Until next time. Good luck pare.

During the holidays I was able to meet the people I do not regularly see. It was weird seeing how we changed but then with the foundation our friendship had, we still felt close and comfortable doing the things we used to do and talking about the old days.

SPMF

My SPMF friends had our White Party at Kaye’s place in Antipolo last weekend. I was disappointed with the ordinary weather I encountered because Kaye told me how very cold and foggy it was up there early December. And I was also expecting the fireflies but they were a no-show. Anyway… The day started with RJ and I doing the shopping for food and gifts at Gateway. Medyo hassle yun kasi paikot-ikot kami with Kaye on the phone giving us instructions on what alcoholic drinks to buy. We arrived in Antipolo at 7PM.

The party was okay but not as fun as last year. Even with the laughter-filled games, I still missed having Christine around and Michael and Jack and Gilbert. The party ended at 5AM.

MONEER AND COCOY

Two days before 2009, Moneer called and asked me to go out. He’s a friend from college who now stays in Cotabato for his business. An hour after, we (Jeyelle, Moneer, Cocoy [another college friend] and me) were having dinner in Timog all on Mon’s tab. The last time I saw Moneer was last September when he dropped by the office to ask us out (but I couldn’t). And with Cocoy, we were still in college when we last saw and talked to each other. Haha! That’s why I couldn’t believe how business-like they had become. As for Cocoy, he looked cuter with his clean-cut hair and buff body. Too bad we weren’t able to take pictures of us that night for souvenir. Sayang.

KEITH

Keith was one of my closest friends in college. To describe Keith, he’s unpredictable, quiet and fun. Quiet and fun, right? That’s why he’s unpredictable – he’d just stay quiet and then suddenly he’d crack a funny joke or do something nobody expected him to do. We’d regularly talk through IM but the last time we met in person was in college.

Last Friday, I fetched Jeyelle from the office and we went to Greenbelt to meet Keith. He grew big. I mean, I see him in pictures but it wasn’t until last Friday that I noticed how big his bone structure was. Bagay sa kanya. We had dinner in Fuzion and we inadvertently took a memorable seat for him. Haha! He’s still that emotional – like the old Keith I know. The three of us caught up with our stories and recounted the college days over a delicious dinner. And after eating, we relaxed by scanning the area for cute guys. Hahaha! Really like the old times.

At around 9PM we transferred to Top Grill in Jupiter where his officemates were celebrating. We settled by the balcony and there was this TV set tuned in to Channel 2. Haaay I loved it! Even during the holidays, I wasn’t able to watch local TV shows because I was always sleeping or eating or watching DVDs. So as we let Keith do his “business” with his “officemate” inside, Jeyelle and I enjoyed ourselves watching “I Luv Betty La Fea”, “Eva Fonda” and “Pinoy Fear Factor” over long drinks.

MCO

Yesterday I had dinner in Blue Wave with my officemates from ACS. I will never forget them because they’re my first ever officemates. All the experiences I have now about the call center world, I learned and lived with them. They also witnessed how Piglet and I started. And after three years, they still are the same people I used to work with: funny, spontaneous, childish and loud. Hahaha! Only now, fortunately, some of them have reached higher positions in different companies.

Mygaaad! And up until now they still can’t make up their minds quickly. It took us almost an hour deciding where to eat. Haha! From high-end buffet to just staying at the apartment, we finally decided to stay in Guilly’s island in SM Mall of Asia. And at the last minute, as we passed by Blue Wave, we switched plans and went to Gerry’s Grill. Even with our after-hours party, we couldn’t decide whether to stay in White Avenue, Absinth, Ascend, Alchemy or Metro Walk. It took us an hour of picture-taking and walking around before we finally decided to hit Timog. Haaaaay…

As they say, some things never change. Well good because I like them that way.

A week before the Black and White party Kaye and I met up and spent time together, just the two of us, after years of not being able to do so. During that time I was feeling a bit low and wanted to be with someone maybe because I was missing Piglet so much and I felt bad that lately we couldn’t find time to go out anymore due to my impossible work schedule. Kaye was the perfect person I needed to be with. My best friend.

And it was like the old times. We walked around Megamall looking for clothes, shopped for gifts, had dinner and just laughed at people around us who were attention-worthy. Kaye and I, when we’re together, do bad things to others without them knowing. We keep them to ourselves of course! Hahaha! I missed him. And I missed having someone listen to me as attentively as he does. You see, Kaye is very good listener and very good at complimenting. He can make you feel like you’re Miss Universe even if you’re just Miss Barangay 4th Runner-up.

Anyway… Distance can play a big role on friendship. Sometimes you choose to maintain distance for reasons that may seem inappropriate but make your relationships with other people work nonetheless. If there’s anybody who can endure a long-distance relationship, it’s best friends like us who never feel alienated no matter how different we may become over time. Because at the end of the day, it’s still us. Kids who can laugh at ourselves, understand each other without saying much and make each other feel we’re not alone even when the whole world turns black.

Until next time Best.